Do you walk around with your head held high and a smile on your face? Or, do you slouch and frown, or worse, look angry or scared?
Are you surrounded by people who put themselves and others down, and see only the bad in everything? Or, do your friends look at the bright side, do they believe in you and make you feel good about yourself?
Do you find yourself letting others tell you what you can and can’t do? Or, do you listen to your heart when it says, “Just do it!”
Do you think other people are better than you? Or, do you focus on what you like about yourself?
Finding the courage to believe in yourself is easy when you change the way you think about a few things, and you change the way you think about yourself.
Try surrounding yourself with people you think are great, and who make you feel like you can be great too. Friends like this may be a little hard to find, especially at first, but they are worth the effort.
When you are having a bad day, stand up straight, pull your shoulders back, and smile. Look people in the eye and say “hi”, even to the ones you don’t know. Faking confidence and pretending to be in a good mood work like magic. They trick your brain into helping you feel better. And who knows, you might discover a couple of those people who make you feel like you can be great.
Stop comparing yourself to others and think about the things that make you awesome.
Start to trust that happy feeling deep down inside of you when something feels right. Stay true to yourself by doing the things you believe in and watch your confidence grow.
The good news is, there’s probably nothing really wrong with you that changing your mind about a few things won’t fix.
Posted by Deborah McTiernan
Author of Lilly Noble & Actual Magic
Paranormal books for teenagers